My Surprise Delivery

When I got pregnant I noticed everyone likes to give you advice and tell you all about their pregnancy and delivery, so I heard A LOT of stories. Here is mine for anyone who wants to know.

From 36 weeks on you go see your Obstetrician once a week until you deliver. So Monday the 13th off I went to see my OB and have him ask the standard questions and head back home with nothing to worry about. We did the usual chat and I mentioned that the swelling in my feet was really bugging me- its so hot in Brisbane right now in Summer and so I equated that and my growing belly to the problem since my blood pressure has been perfect through this pregnancy. Needless to say my huge feet were a little concerning to the doctor so he wanted me to have a blood test done once I left his office. He also checked me out and I was 2cm dilated. Doesn’t mean a whole lot sometimes because you can be 1,2,3 cm dilated for weeks without anything happening. BUT, the doctor said he wanted to schedule an induction date for me on the 27th of Feb just to be safe, he also noted he didn’t think I would actually make it to that point without going into labor naturally.

Smart guy this OB of mine because after getting my blood work done and getting some groceries and settling in for the night I started to have these funny feelings in my back in the middle of the night. I thought it was the run of the mill pregnancy back pain and just shoved it to the back of my brain to complain to Alex about later. The next morning I got up to start making Alex his valentines day dinner (thankfully in our crockpot) and start the day. Every now and then throughout the morning these annoying back pains would get me but they were few and far between. I ended up getting a call from my doctor later in the day letting me know my blood work came back irregular and I was beginning to develop preeclampsia. He wanted to see me on Thursday instead of the next Monday. I think my body knew it was probably time to evict this tiny human before anything worse started to happen.

After lunch those annoying pains started coming around to the front of my tummy and I was like yup Braxton Hicks my body is just doing some practice for the big day which is still 2 weeks away- no big deal. Alex was a smart man though and told me to go ahead and get upstairs to pack my hospital bag so we were ready when I would eventually go into labor. He could see I was getting more uncomfortable but neither of us suspected that I was indeed in labor.

I kept taking warm showers all day to soothe my annoying back which is really helpful and nice if you do realize that you’re in the early stages of labor. I just figured when it came down to it I would definitely know what was going on which I found not to be the case in the end. By about 9/9:30 that night I was really uncomfortable and we started to talk about whether to go to the hospital and just see what was going on. We finally decided to go at 10 and called Bryce (Alex’s brother) to come over and babysit our other little man Murphy while we went to hospital. We both kind of thought they would check me out and send me home.


When they settled me in and asked me about my pain and what else was going on they checked babies heart and took my vitals they did another exam. Surprise I was 4cm dilated. They gave my OB a call to see what he wanted them to do, and after that I was admitted. Contractions were getting closer together all night and I was pretty dang miserable. Tossing and turning in the bed to try and get comfy, taking more warm showers, the whole nine yards but nothing was working. I thought I would try to do my best to labor naturally so I refused the pain meds offered to me left and right. By 5:30am I was 6cm dilated and they moved me to the birthing suite. I was going to have this baby today!!!

I stopped being a superwoman at about this point and was considering my options for pain management. I finally gave into my pain and said give me that ever so enticing epidural. I had been laboring for quite a long time and I was over feeling like my back was going to just finally split in half. Modern medicine people! To quote my husband after the epidural went in around 7am “Abby is a new woman” I was cracking jokes with the midwife and staff and ready to get the show on the road and have this baby. I was 8cm dilated at this point so didn’t have to wait too much longer to meet our son and I was both excited and nervous!

By 10:30 it was go time and I began the hardest bit of this whole thing, PUSHING THAT BABY OUT! It is a surreal experience to go through child birth and I am so glad I got to experience that empowerment of bringing a new life screaming into the world. It was  tough, I wont lie, even with the epidural,  you get exhausted from going through labor then having to push the baby over and over down the birth canal. I had an amazing encouraging husband and midwife that got me through most of it. Thank you Sam! Thank you Alex! When the baby was getting closer to crowning his heart rate dropped so they called my OB to come over and see what was going on. Thankfully little guy recovered and it was really time to get him out. With my obstetrician (ironically enough) Dr. Alex Alexander, and everyone in place I was about to have this baby!

11:41am on February 15, 2017 Hayden Alexander Boukogiannis made his entrance into our lives and we became a mom and dad.  Instantaneous love is the only way to describe it and I cried like a baby- I may have even seen a tear from my very laid back and stoic husband. We were a family. I am tearing up now just remembering that moment. I can hardly put into words our happiness.




Being three weeks early he is small only weighing 5 lbs 12 oz and 18.5 inches long. But he is the cutest peanut baby ever (unbiased opinion of course!). We are still in the hospital as he has some jaundice we are getting under control and hoping to leave tomorrow and start day to day life of having a newborn around the house. No more buzzer to get a midwife to help me, no more room service, and thankfully no more of this tiny hospital room. We can’t wait to bring him home to meet our pup Murphy and get into a routine of no sleep and loving on this amazing gift from God with all our hearts.

Thank you to everyone for the messages-they haven’t gone unnoticed and I will get back to each and every one of them! We appreciate every kind word!

With love,

Alex, Abby, Hayden, and Murphy


Pregnancy- Third Trimester Thoughts

Getting a bigger and bigger belly by the day? Feet sore at the end of a walk around the mall? Getting winded by walking up a flight of stairs? Peeing constantly? Uncomfortable sleeping?

If you have answered yes to one of more of these questions you might be in the third trimester of pregnancy like me. I am now 34 weeks along and baby is head down and ready to pack on the fat to be ready to meet us in just over a month.

Third Trimester:

I was feeling really great until about week 31 when my back and pelvis really started to feel the pressure of all the extra weight of this little boy I am growing. Then the sleepiness of the first trimester hit me again, mostly due to bad sleep at night. Also I found myself bumping into quite a lot of things around the house and getting some nice bruises on my every growing belly.


I had heard from lots of mommy friends that this last trimester seems to be longer than the first two, and I can honestly say it has felt that way. I think the more uncomfortable you get the longer the days feel. Plus this lovely Queensland summer has been making it miserable to step outside for more than 5 minutes unless I want to be red faced and sweaty for a couple hours, plus I’m already an oven as it is. I have been camped out in the rooms with air conditioning and drinking tons of water which doesn’t help with the constant bathroom breaks.

IMG_0026.jpgJumping (well I’m only bouncing up and down) for JOY because we got the all clear this week that my placenta previa has resolved itself and I am a go for natural birth!

We were so excited to see the doctor this week because we hoped to get to see baby B’s face…of course as I said in my last post he is not a fan of having his pictures taken (which does not look good for this snap-happy mama to be) his foot and hand were in front of his face the entire time and he wouldn’t stop moving. BUUUT looks like he may have my nose which I am super pumped about because maybe he wont just look like a clone of his daddy and will get a nice blend of us both.


Can you see him in the mess of limbs and umbilical cord? I spy a cute nose and lips.

IMG_0030.jpg                                  This month I also had my baby shower surrounded by my wonderful network of Aussie women. I have been so lucky Alex had good taste in friends and that they in turn had awesome taste when it came to picking a wife because I love these girls so much. Plus I have my Canadian friend who has gone through the immigration process with me and the women I have nannied for and Alex’s cousins and Aunts. This little boy will be surrounded by amazing women that’s for sure.


DSC_0942.jpgMy mother in law and her best friend Jo threw the shower and it was amazing. This baby is so spoiled already! I am so blessed to have married into a family that is so supportive because being so far away from mine comes with its challenges and I do miss home from time to time.

In a couple weeks we will have our maternity shoot and our calendar for February is packed! We are getting to go away for a last hurrah before bub gets here and have loads of other fun stuff happening to hopefully make these last 6ish weeks go by quickly. But I am savoring the moments of laying my hands on my belly and feeling him move because it’s nearly over.


I am more excited as each day and week passes to have this baby in my arms but I know that this is the end of an era for me and Alex. It has been just the two of us adventuring together. Then adding Murphy who is always keeping us on our toes. We have done so much in the last three plus years and now thats all going to change, not that we will have less fun but it will be so different. But seeing the the smile on Alex’s face when he puts his hands on my belly and feels our son moving makes it clear that the next adventure we are about to be on as parents will be the best one yet.


We are ready for you little man…well as ready as we are ever going to be.


  • bad vision- you get some water retention during pregnancy (well most people do) and instead of finding it in swollen ankles a feet my water retention decided to take place in my eyes makes it hard to read anything that wasn’t directly in front of my face. Doc says its pretty normal and “should” go back to normal after delivery..will keep you posted on if I do indeed need some extra thick glasses after he arrives
  • easily bruising- yeah looks like I have midnight battles because I wake up with bruises all over my legs. Plus Murphy being a little jumper when I get home from being out has given me some lovely scratches
  • sleepless nights- between the multiple trips to the bathroom and the fact that little man NEVER and I mean NEVER stops moving I think I am pretty prepared for the sleepless nights of feeding in the first few weeks. Its amazing how little sleep my body seems to need these days
  • heartburn- especially when it hits you in the middle of the night making it nearly impossible to fall back asleep. I swear it feels like a fire burning through your throat!
  • nesting- the amount of times I have cleaned a room or rearranged something or gone on clothes folding spree is crazy, I think Alex is enjoying it